8 KINDS OF MEN TO AVOID

Relationships aren’t for the faint of heart; you are required to bare your soul to someone and pray they reciprocate.

You’re expected to compromise a lot (sometimes at your own expense) to ensure that the relationship is kept afloat.

If that’s not enough, you also have to go through the tedious task of making sure that you don’t wear your heart on your sleeve for the wrong person.

Women have it the worst. Society is riddled with swine who pretend to be gentlemen; and because not that many of them exist, we often find ourselves falling victim to deceitful boys who only want to get in your pants.

But don’t fret, there’s a glimmer of hope. Below is a list of the worst types of men you absolutely have to avoid!

The Runner

This is a man who’ll run for the hills at the very mention of “feelings” or emotional attachment. He doesn’t handle “we need to talk” very well. It’s not your fault that he’s not yet mature enough to handle the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship – he’s still a boy, and if he’d rather “kick it” with you then kick his spineless ass to the curb.

The ‘Charmer’

This guy right here is a flirt, he can’t help himself. He has several side-chicks under his playboy belt and you’re probably one of them. He’s insecure and probably has to contend with a “small” issue that has nothing to do with you. With him you’ll always be an option, never a priority.

The Stand-Up Guy

If you have no problem getting stood up at the last minute after all the effort you put in to looking and smelling your best, then this guy is a good gamble. He won’t hesitate to send you a Whatsapp message cancelling on you an hour after he was supposed to pick you up for dinner; the common excuse being “Something came up. Sorry”.  That’s how little he thinks of you.

Mr “I’m the Sh*t”

He’s just not that into you because he’s too preoccupied with being into himself. He’s a narcissist, and he keeps you around for those rare occasions when he needs a brief distraction from how amazing he is.

He’s always talking about himself, and when he isn’t, he never lets you get a word in because what you have to say is insignificant. If you have no qualms with being someone’s protégé, this superficial bastard is your Mr Right.

The Teddy Bear

He’s not called a teddy bear because he’s cute and cuddly, but because he’s a big softie. He’s overly sensitive and dramatic and blows the smallest things out of proportion.

He also doesn’t take sarcasm very well because in his mind, every statement is a personal attack on his character. A thoughtful man who spoils his woman is attractive; however, a man who’s constantly smothering you and is clingy is a turn-off.

The No-Show

He talks a good game, shares his dreams of living lavishly but the only problem is that he STAYS seated on his arse! He’d find a job if he bothered to actually look for one, and it doesn’t help that he has expensive taste which he expects you to maintain. You are only useful to him because of what you’re able to provide for him financially. RUN!

Mommy’s little boy

One of the most pathetic forms of man there is. Being family-oriented is one thing, but this guy takes the notion too far. Here’s the truth ladies, if you’re dating this guy then be prepared to always come second.

He’s the type of man who’ll find any reason to run to his mommy dearest for advice over the pettiest nonsense. She, on the other hand, probably doesn’t even like you because she either feels threatened by you, or thinks that you’re not good enough for her “precious boy”.

You can’t compete with that kind of attachment, so why even bother?

The No-Brainer

The married man is a definite no-go! He made a sacred vow to another woman and has a family. Contrary to what you might choose to believe, he will never leave his family for you. You only spite yourself by being with him, unless you’re cool with the “side-chick” title.

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THE DANGER OF HABITUAL MASTURBATION

sex between two adults( preferably married) is a wonderful thing. In marriage, sex is one of the key factors that keeps the fire burning and it gives room for intimacy, it is not surprising to know that sex can end a long quarrel between two married people. But,when an individual decides to satisfy his/her urge alone hmmm! Such individual will enjoy the moment but what happens after may take years of counseling  to correct.

When you are a habitual masturbator, you are in your own secret world of fantasy where only you reside, you shot the door against your partner and build walls around your sexual desires without knowing it. Your partner becomes a pass time to you cos he/ she will never satisfy your sexual fantasies no matter how much he/she tries. You become your,own sex mate cos nobody can do it to you the way you enjoy your own touch.

The consequence, resentment sets in. You will gradually start to resent and dread the touch of your partner, you no longer enjoy the union both of u share together, u just perform the duty but with no enthusiasm. If you allow this to go on, it will be so obvious that your partner will start noticing it, he/,she will at first think that they are not good enough and will try everything to make u come around, but like an unfaithful partner, nothing he/she does will ever satisfy u because a strange person has come inbetween the both of you in your sex bed and that strange person is you locked up in your world of fantasy. when their efforts fail, frustration sets in, they also will loose their enthusiasm for sex thereby gradually creating gaps and holes between the two of you.

Habitual masturbation can make u withdrawn from your partner, keeps you busy doing your thing in the toilet or bathroom, away from where you husband/wife will see u and when you are done, you are tired and will not want him/her taping you and demanding for sex.

MY ADVICE: no matter the fantasy you have on the type of wild and crazy thing you want to do while having sex, discuss it with your partner, communicate, guide his/ her hands to those parts of your body that actually makes you go gaga,if he/ she has not been doing it well, teach him/her with love, know what u want and make it know to your partner so as to avoid helping your self out and forming a habit of it.

If you are already a habitual masturbator and it is tearing your home apart(you no longer enjoy the touch of your partner and he/she is no longer finding it funny)  please, you can help your self alone, seek help, summon courage and tell your partner( I know it is not gonna be easy but it will make him/her feel a lot better to know that he/she is not a failure and is not the cause of your being cold in bed. Remember, problem shared is problem half solved, together both of you will break those walls around you and bring you out of that lonly world where only you exist.